Bridal shower Scam Scam, shower, Bridal

Rainy

Do the bridesmaids (Caucasian and Asian) actually host a bridal shower for the bride (Asian) and share the total cost of it? If so, would that count part of ‘the gift’ (aka 人情) to the bride? The Caucasian bridesmaid asked everyone else in the bridal shower that they MUST give a HUGE 人情 when they join the Asian dinner banquet. The Caucasian prepared everything for the bridal shower yet unable to provide receipts upon proof of purchase and claimed that the whole party of 10 girls costs $250! Not only that, was telling the Asian bridesmaid that it’s ONLY shared between bridesmaid, not any other girls who have invited. Yet, the other girls did ask the Caucasian girl how much they should be chipping in. What makes it worse is that the Asian bridesmaid saw other girls giving money to this Caucasian bridesmaid!

fibbi

I never heard about the bride so demanding! Asking the bridesmaid for bigger gift and also the huge cost of the bridal shower party.

Rainy

My 1st time hearing that too. sigh.. Wedding 應該開開心心......  但係搞到0甘.... 好咩~ ....

cremedelacreme

First time hearing bride force bridesmaid to pay, and tell ppl "一定要俾人情, 唔可以 .... 以下補上.... 要俾多D"... all kinds of ppl out there.

tofu

回復 14# Rainy

if she is follow the "white culture", she should responsible for all your costs, like dress, make-up &...
if you are not willing to, you shouldn't be responsible for the cost of the party.  she is the one who receive all the gifts, she should pay for the it.  i never heard the bride will force the bridesmaid to pay for anything.

Mini

個新娘係唔係真係個 Asian 伴娘嘅 friend 嚟架？佢要多啲咪俾 $3000 日本yen 佢囉。＄3K 喎，好多架！

Rainy

回復 15# habitrailspace


    if only 十元八塊, I wouldn't even going to care about it. The thing is..... it's not 十元八塊..... and it's not about the money part anymore. The bride actually said that it's none of her business and told me to suck it up. And, 個 bride 講到明, 我一定要俾人情, 唔可以 .... 以下補上.... 要俾多D, 因為bridesmaid 要俾多D wor.................. 0甘咪做兩次禮囉, 好似? 倸~~ 嫁兩次咩.... =.=

habitrailspace

once in a life time! unless it's many many...times
只不果多咗十元八塊姐!朋友感情係無價!

Rainy

回復 13# tofu


    no 'open door' red pockets, no red pockets for bridesmaid. bride said she follows white culture. =.= if so, shouldn't be even doing 人情.  whatever, I dont' want her to 唱 me about giving less in 人情. i thought standard is $65?

tofu

the break down looks reasonable, but where is the rest of $50

if i were you, i would ask the girls why they gave money to the Caucasian.  if you believe this is more than your budget already, skip or pay less in 人情.  standard is only $50 ar.
ask for a big "open door" lai si instead?
sometimes i don't understand why some brides think her girlfriends are willing to contribe a lot.