advise needed

jasonparker

hey, everyone, this is my 1st thread here. I met my girlfriend in Australia in 2007, but soon after graduation there i came to Vancouver with my family and she went back to HK; We had a long distance relationship ever since, she flew over here a couple of times and i went to HK every year for a few days/weeks; we got engaged early this year but 2 weeks after that she told me she's changed, she said she still loves her highschool classmate in Australia...and she couldn't decide at the moment. Can anyone tell me what to do? Wait? move on? Many thanks...

KittyLeung74

I think she got lost.  Please don't drag yourself into such a messy situation.  You would be confused in the relationship.  Step back, look at the whole picture and ask your inner self what you want.

jasonparker

There is no "calculations" in a relationship. Not because of you have $100 more so a gal would love  ...
FiChai 發表於 2011-3-14 21:45

    yes, that's what i am doing right now; we talk over the phone every two to three days just to let each other know we are both fine, even it's tough for me to talk to a person like this. She keeps telling me she doesn't know what she wants, but it's kinda cruel to me whatsoever. i don't know if it's right to talk to her so much...

FiChai

There is no "calculations" in a relationship. Not because of you have $100 more so a gal would love you more than the poorer guy, not because of you're less handsome so that gal loves the one who is more handsome... . It's more like a complicated feeling.
Sorry to say and it might be cruel, but it may be the reality, she changed her attitude to you all of a sudden because something happened out of her expectation. Doesn't mean she doesn't love you anymore, but maybe she did something that she is struggling right now, or she's confused between you and the korean guy, or because of before-marry-fear, anyways, there must be a reason, but maybe she doesn't want to tell you the truth or maybe she doesn't even understand what she needs. Give her some time to figure out, don't put too much pressure on her.

pkphilip

If she is not coming back, then nothing much you could do about it.

Philip

jasonparker

do you guys think it's the end of story? no turn around? probably right, even her family is on my side, she insists not coming back...

Guy

It's too late to help.
When you leave AU, you should decide whether stay together or break up.
The still in love of the old classmate is just an excuse to make you let go.
that also makes you are not the bad guy here. it was she who change heart.

sheep

I feel sorry for your situation. I hate to say, when women make up their mind, it is impossible to c ...
pkphilip 發表於 2011-3-13 22:06

    啱喇
女人愛你
會不顧一切
女人唔愛你
你做咩都掹唔番
呢度有辦你睇

pkphilip

I feel sorry for your situation. I hate to say, when women make up their mind, it is impossible to change them. This is especially true regarding relationships.

It is hard to bear this, but letting go might be the best way to do. Walk a few step back and look at this in a broader view, if she could tell you that, i bet there is more going on with her that she wasn't telling you. Would you be able to accept that?

Don't ask why, just let it go.

Philip

小白熊

看來問題麻煩了，
因為你女友並不想告訴你真正的原因。

「為什麼？」是每個人遇到問題時的第一疑問，
但是真正的答案常常永不得知。
這也是為什麼有「法官」這個行業的存在，
不過俗語說「清官難斷家務事」，
若你們自己都無法得到答案，
這事就算是交給法官也一樣無解，
頂多只能要求你女友歸還訂婚信物罷了。

除非你們還能繼續對這個問題有建設性的溝通，
不然你也只能試著去接受這個事實了。

Good Luck!