I was assaulted by my co-worker when I was getting off from work...
The whole thing started with a small argument (At least I think it is...)
Before lunch time, I was organizing some files and I gave a few to them to this guy and told him to fax it for me. He was reluctant and told me that I didn't cross out certain information on the document, so I just told him to do it since he has them in his hands...He ended up throwing the files back on my desktop and started mumbling so I was like "What're you doing?" and he just kept on mumbling...so I was like "whatever, I'll do it myself"...
Nothing happened until I was getting off from work...
I was saying good bye to my boss and walked down the stairs with another co-worker...The guy was standing by the door, keeping it open with his back...So I just thought he was keeping it open for the girl that I was walking down with...and I only thought that he might close the door on me once the girl walks out so that I'll have to open it myself (as a way to show me he does not like me....) but NOOOOOOO~ while i was walking out...he grabbed my shirt (around my neck) and then gave me a headlock...I was holding a bunch of text books at the time and so it wasn't the best scenario to fight back...I decided to relax my body...and hey...it doesn't feel bad at all...Anyways...the guy started yelling at me "How dare you speak to me like that? How dare you use that tone! How dare you!? I'll punch you! I'll punch you!!" (In Chinese) I saw his fist and it was shaking soooo much...I didn't want to yell for my boss at the time because he was having a guest over, and that would certainly embarrass him, so I was like...fine...the worst is getting punched...no biggie...He didn't though...He released me and started threatening me next time I talk to him with an attitude he'll beat me up...So I just told him to do so and I'll of course call the cops on him and he said "Yeah, you do that!" and he jumped on his car and left...
Well I didn't thought it was a big problem at the time but then on my way home, I realized that my neck was bleeding...
Now most of you would ask me...Why didn't I fight back when he released me?
At that time, it wasn't the best place to fight cuz there was a girl beside us and the space between the staircase and the door was really small...So I just kinda let it be...2nd, fighting back and beat the **** outta this guy is only going to satisfy me momentarily and cause him to be in pain for a certain amount of time only...That's not enough...I wanna get back at him with a BAM! From what I know, this guy is still waiting for his citizenship, so I'm gonna take it away from him...Tomorrow I'm gonna file with the RCMP regarding an assault by him...He's getting ****ed in the ass for sure...Assaulting someone when you are applying citizenship is not exactly the smartest thing to do...
I wanna teach this guy a lesson...I don't want to let him off the hook that easily, I want him to regret this for the rest of his life...I want him to know that messing with me caused him his citizenship and future in Canada. The worst scenario is that he might get deported back to China, I would love to see that!
It's a small scratch, but it actually bled for a while...It actually looks worse right now because the scratch got swollen and ****...Still enough to file for assault, plus I got a witness...
I think your co-worker is "too much". There are something you can do but depends what is your direction.
If you staying in this company, you may need another co-work to talk to this dude and finding out what is wrong with you and what is wrong with him. Then you can figure out what to do !
If you want to quit, tell your boss you want to quit and you want to invite this dude have a meeting with you while your boss around. Your need your boss to "protect" you if this dude doing something in-appropriate. After the meeting, you are well protected by yourself and leave all subsquent event to your boss.
原帖由 Maggie 於 2008-3-23 01:28 發表
Dying to know the end result.
Have been having big trouble lately with coworkers too... feel so bad and stupid for not knowing how to defend myself... I think your guy is very dumb with extremely low ...
Oh...I've had one of those before while I was being a sales associate...If you're higher rank...The boss will probably favor your side of the story better...and actually a lot of bosses knows who actually has an attitude and who doesn't, it's just that some of them are too lazy to deal with the it and the aftermath (getting a replacement or whatsoever)
Have been having big trouble lately with coworkers too... feel so bad and stupid for not knowing how to defend myself... I think your guy is very dumb with extremely low EQ... One witch in my office made things up. She handled a customer-related situation poorly and interrupted my work. She's a front counter person and I am at the back doing finance (my work space is semi-open). I have made it really clear that I do not want interruptions as it's the end of fiscal year and I got too much crap to do already. Somehow this customer came to see me for ONE page of photocopying and I told her the front counter staff will be able to help but the customer said she got directed to me by the front counter staff. At that point there's no other customer at all and the witch was just faxing stuff and the fax machine was sitting at the front counter. I was pretty irritated but didn't wanna show it. I walked to the front counter and just said "this lady would like to get a page of photocopy..." I didn't even finished and she just got sooooooooooooo offended and said in a very frustrated tone "I TOLD HER I WILL BE WITH HER IN A MINUTE!!"... I was surprised that she's so mad, but my experience in customer service tells me that priority goes to LIVE PERSON so I said "this lady just need to photocopy one page would you..." Didn't get to finish what I said and she again, in that same bad tone, said "I SAID I WILL BE RIGHT WITH HER I AM BUSY FAXING!!" and just walked away from the counter to the backroom... the customer and I were just looking at each other but I got that page done since I DID have to get back to my own work. Of course not very happy with the situation, I talked to our boss, and he recommended me to talk to her... So I did... 2 weeks later, somehow the senior front counter staff (FC) called out a meeting about the work atmosphere... boss, senior front counter staff and I decided not to continue her contract but couldn't find anyone else so got her back a month later. She made stuff up in the past to the senior FC (I ordered supplies and she was supposed to put them away... but she told the senior FC that I told her "not to touch my supplies and of course I told the senior FC that it's not true and I never said that... the senior FC was like o it's just misunderstanding and we all interpret differently... like tried to ease it...) I never really liked her and it's not a secret that we don't really get along but she's just a temp so I don't care. THIS TIME, she told my boss that I scold at her and humiliate her in front of everyone in public and gave her a lecture and blah blah blah... I WAS SHOCKED!!! She made the thing 2000 times worse (the whole thing was like a minute... we had the conversation in like 30 seconds and I finished the copy the other 30 second... I talked to her about what happened after I talked to my boss. I was polite too. I was standing behind a pillar and asked if she has a minute to talk about the incident in the morning and she said yes. I was telling her that the customer told me that she got direct to me... I didn't get to finish but then she again insisted that she didn't say that and such and so I said "the customer made not hear you maybe she thought you didn't pay attention to her (she was looking down at the fax machine)... and she asked what would I do so I said I will make eye contact with the customer and such... and the conversation ended pretty ok in my opinion... well, apparently, this is not that case... she went to the senior FC and boss and said how I treated her and stuff. And I asked her what did I say that made she think I was scolding at her in front of other people and there's no one else and the boss suggested that conversation... She had her eyes wide open looking right at me saying she didn't record anything with a recorder and how is she supposed to recall what was said exactly and this and that... Well, she did save up my wrong doings to report to my boss... lame...
since she was lying I was so angry and when I was angry I couldn't talk... I missed my chance to defend myself... feel so stupid...
So good for you for being tough... I am learning how to face evil people...
原帖由 yungfourfour 於 2008-3-22 22:28 發表
I don't know
to me he simply violates the code of conduct and.... yeah
did you boss know the whole thing?
i told him about it the next day...he brought the guy into the meeting room and tried talking some sense into the guy...but the guy thought what he did was right...
yeah...afterwards i told my family about this...they all kinda agreed that this might be better...give him a chance...just hope that he does change because of this....
發表於 2008-3-19 22:42
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