結婚前老公都有幫手做家務, 但係結左婚後成日要叫好多次先會幫手,
自己做左吾使等, 成日要叫好多次先會做.
以前都吾覺有甘多野要做，而家先知一個婚後既女人都幾忙 ga .
一星期五日返工, 放工make dinner,/ 做家務, 放假更家要做 because of laundry, cleaning up bathroom, kitchen, vaccum and etc.
yeah... sometimes really "寧願我自己妥妥當當清潔好全部野", but sometimes I'll let him to do it just for the sake of it... it is important to him feels that he is responsible (or suppose to do it) ...
meowmeowmeow 發表於 2009-5-19 00:28
totally agree... exactly!!! i don't need to him to physically do anything.. i like him to be enjoy whatever he is doing at home. i feel happy and sweet to take care of him, but it is really the feeling of being appreciated or thankful and knowing that he wants to take responsibility of his home are basically enough. Even sometimes if he will ask if he can help out, but not doing it, i will still be really happy. I agree and i still believe in traditional family, where women will do most of our house works.
However, doing houseworks after work and still working without feeling of being appreciated is just frustrating sometimes. we talked about it last night. i think we will be ok. Thanks so much for understanding how i feel .....
We both agreed before married that what housework we are going to do. I will do cooking, cleaning washroom, wiping the floor and he'll do vacuum + dishes plus taking out garbage. So "no argue" after married lor.
But of course, if he's busy I'll help him out or when I'm busy or tired he'll help me out la.
haha.. just like asking ur hubby to clean up the messy stuff to train him?? LOL..last time i bought some coke... and coz we are so thirsty..we put 4 cans of coke..inside the freezer... and we totally forgot abt it..until the next day..when i open up the freezer to find something to eat..found out all coke exploded..super messy..and i screamed..and my bf clean up the whole mess for me (無奈地) LOL
yeah... sometimes really "寧願我自己妥妥當當清潔好全部野", but sometimes I'll let him to do it just for the sake of it... it is important to him feels that he is responsible (or suppose to do it), and from that they will appreciate more of what you did.
i'm glad that my bf will help out with some of the chores on a daily basics.. he would help out set out table for dinner and clean up after dinner.. or when i cook he will clean and vice versa but of course i will never know what he will become after married.. lol
發表於 2009-5-18 13:57
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yeah... sometimes really "寧願我自己妥妥當當清潔好全部野", but sometimes I'll let him to do it just for the sake of it... it is important to him feels that he is responsible (or suppose to do it) ...
