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ani

最近可能是因為上了年紀的關係
身邊越來越多人問我
婚期什麼時候呀?
有什麼打算呀?
etc etc etc

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我也不知道什麼時候
又沒人跟我求婚..
難不成我能自己決定
自己跟自己結婚?

yayaya

how old are you sin

matt72178

ani,
其實點解一定要結婚? 順其自然啦。

Alcoholic

don't be pressured. it's better to have nobody than to have somebody that makes yourself feel incomplete.

kaimui22

People are getting married later and older...because most people want to be financially secure before settling down and starting a family...so why should you feel pressured if you're not ready (emotionally and financially).

Don't feel pressured to do something you are not ready to do...otherwise you will regret and/or only feel lonely inside.

Ignore those around you who are pushing you to get married...especially those annoying relatives who ALWAYS ask...if you are happy the way you are now, then just take their words as 耳邊風.

pepsis2

aii.. i used to be agreeing with KAIMUI22... not to offend all of the unmarried girls.... just want to express my other side opinion...

Most guys I know, single or divorced & in their 20's to 40's, who are seriously looking for long term relationship but haven't "bumped" in the the Mrs. Right, are somehow tell me the same thing: "Hope to  find someone understanding, same value, blah blah blah..... & not too old"

Definitely of "NOT TOO OLD": in the mid 20's to early 30's
I know it sounds just sooooo unfair but girls u gotta realize that if the guy is serious enough to think of having a family, they think of the timeline of having a baby as well (eventually). Although nowaday the technology of late pregnancy is possible, it's always certain risk involved plus whether the couples are energetic enough to take care of the new addition of the family.

Let say u're in your early 30's & u meet someone u think there's possibility to stay forever. At least u need sometimes to get along & get known to each other (& their families, believe me, it's one of the most common factor it either makes the marriage happy or sour) : 2 years maybe. so after u get married, another 2 years of "siu couple sweet time"... so u give birth of your baby at the mid 30's.

I know all of u who comment that "oh dun do it when u do feel like doing" are really from the good hearts, & what they mean is 100% true!  But girls just need to wake up early to realize there's a timeframe (so unfortune for us!) & get yourself prepared to look for long term partner in your life: like going to meet more new friends, get a new haircut & dress up more to impress ppl around u (sound stupid but somehow work), be more open &  positive toward ppl...
even u don't find ur future partner, u feel good toward yourselves during the process ga....

of course bear in mind that "KEEP YOUR EYES WIDE WIDE OPEN" when u choose bf la! hahah

Wee

agree w/ pepsis2...unfortunately there's a timeframe for female being. just have the idea bared in mind n' be open n' positive in meeting male frds....a metaphor i heard of is like CAREER PATH. fire out as many resumes to jobs "of ur interest"   <--- MOST CRUCIAL. dating then, is like interview... n' relationship is Job opportunity.
u may figure the rest...
dress to impress ar hair cut ar --> business code
promotion --> serious relationship or advanced enough, marriage in this case.
then supervisor or CFO or CEO  --> depends on ur interest n' needs for freedom in a marriage.

rought fact is......jump as many boats when u r young before settle down...but each JOB OPPORTUNITY requires pre-requisit n' heart n' effort n' baring n' understanding n' (usually) years before advancing.

jump boat or apply to a company PURELY based on ur relative's n' even strangers are just wrong, as u shouldn't let OTHERS manipulate ur career choice

Alcoholic

reminder girls, there's no such combo as: marriage = + baby.... at least not what i think. if you think traditionally like pepsis & wee, then yeah, you mind as well just get a mate & reproduce asap since it's the purpose of a female organism's life.

the new generation now values independent needs more. i've seen girls that i acknowledge are utterly desperate to get married & have this race to get knocked up because they think that their "golden time" is about to end. they panic & search for a guy that they feel can have the ability to support them financially & is "ready to start a family" (aka kids).... i've heard story where the girl dump the guy after a few years because he hasn't proposed yet. & what do you know? the next thing that happens is she dates another person & gets married asap within 2 yrs. now talk about love. how much do you really "love" that person when you're all freaked out cus nobody wants you to have a kid with them before 30+/-. it just shows that you're not internally strong as a woman & you depend too much on men. now i don't think that's a "career goal". it's more like you'll take any job that'll give you some sort of lasting future, but you don't really know what YOU WANT AS A CAREER.

pepsis2

I admit I'm traditional ....but I don't think marriage must = have BB... Just know lots of couples who dont have kids & live happily as well...

Getting a husband like looking for promotion???? that i never thought of wor.... dun have comments on this...

my point is... if u do think u want to have BB in your marriage, u should have started it not too late... for womens who over 35 , it's just harder to get pregnant & easier to give birth of a defected child (read the health articles, scientificially proven).  Yes they are more mature & financially stable to take care of BB. But u need to get pregnant first THEN give birth of child THEN take care & educate.  

I don't mean to force girls to rush to some guys just for getting married.. U get me wrong la... just want to remind them that there'r  lesser chance to find your Mr. Right when u get older. I hate to say that men r sought after appearance & youth , but that's most men true feeling in their hearts.... of course u ask your bf, he will reassure u "NO, IT'S NOT THE TRUTH"....

it's more like when we girls looking for a partner, there r certain things we want them to be: responsible, faithful, financially stable... blah blah blah...

Family does consist 1 man & 1 woman (except same sex couples) & then maybe some offsprings coming or not... but as a unit, I don't think of like "oh woman should not depend on man " or what-so-ever. They depend on & support each other.  When u enter marriage, both sides have their responsibilities..maybe some responsibilities shift from husband to wife or vice versa from time to time.. BUT WHEN IT COMES TO BEARING CHILD.... it's just the fact that being able to pregnant fall into the woman's side.

"Love is more like giving, not just asking."  I still believe in it too.

pepsis2

Quoted" i've heard story where the girl dump the guy after a few years because he hasn't proposed yet. & what do you know? the next thing that happens is she dates another person & gets married asap within 2 yrs. "

hahha.. I thought u are talking about me le! I was in this situation too!!!

aii.. but the problems were much bigger than "not proposed yet"... anyway, when I look back to that ex-relationship, I have no regret. Even if my ex treated me 'not good' (i try my best to be nice), i do appreciate the time we spent together for 5 years & many things he taught me. I mean, if I never bump into this  >_< man, I will never know how to appreciate the Mr. Right coming after & know how to get along & grow with-in a relationship... The best thing is I become a more understanding & better person in the process of realization!

so if u fail in 1 relationship, dun worry! look at the bright side & there's always HOPE!