chunsh

原帖由 ordinary_girl 於 2008-1-10 23:07 發表
for god's sake why don't the guys try to live with their mother-in-laws for a change and see can you handle it

if the lai lai insist to live with her son and his wife, then it would be the lai lai's fault
but if u pay attention to the original story, its the son and the wife need the lai lai to come to take care the new born baby and the wife


唉﹐真係﹐搞清楚先搬個"神"出黎啦

華美子

話明吐苦水，奶奶好既一面我都唔會係度講架啦，邊個人咁得閒開個thread 頌讚佢奶奶？開thread 讚自己阿媽都無啦。

我講十樣野，比人抽我五樣野黎插，但係好奇怪，個五樣野其實已經係我之前既thread解釋左，但插我既人都好似睇唔到咁，因此我都無謂浪費口水。

同男人講生仔產前產彼點辛苦，side 氣，等於對牛彈琴。wait till you have a kid of your own and you have to stay home dealing with the crying baby day and night and at the same time living with your mother-in-law, then you'll truely understand.

And sorry, no body requested my 99 to come, not even my hubby.  My 99 just wanted to come and stay with us for 3 months.

[ 本帖最後由 華美子 於 2008-1-10 23:37 編輯 ]

chunsh

原帖由 華美子 於 2008-1-10 23:32 發表
話明吐苦水，奶奶好既一面我都唔會係度講架啦，邊個人咁得閒開個thread 頌讚佢奶奶？開thread 讚自己阿媽都無啦。

我講十樣野，比人抽我五樣野黎插，但係好奇怪，個五樣野其實已經係我之前既thread解釋左，但插我既人都好似睇唔到 ...

其實如果係o甘﹐你奶奶真係小氣同難相處既
但你有無想過其實當中有原因係﹐你奶奶說到底都唔係你呀媽﹐佢點都唔會好像你
自己呀爸呀媽o甘知道你心意(e,g, favourite food, etc) take care得o甘岩你意
思呢??不過﹐正如之前我講過﹐你將來都可能變成o甘﹐到時你未來女"勢"/新抱﹐甘樣think
你﹐你就知味道

also﹐無功都有勞呀﹐聽你口氣你好像岩岩座完月無耐﹐除非你老公唔使搵食o者﹐
如果唔係o的老人家(生孩子經驗者)take care your family﹐我估你同你老公都會好"呢hie" (or o黎計)


無論你奶奶係唔係只不過想見下個grand-child一面而順道來take care 你﹐佢點都
係某些地方幫過你兩母子/女呀﹐點解之前用個甘難聽既topic呢﹐你知嗎? before
I read the content of your post, 我真係以為你奶奶顛左﹐要去mental hospital﹐
仲要幫你報警個種呀


sorry to misunderstood your story, but u can't just blame us. People usually pay more attention to "headings"....

big_tooth

原帖由 Yui 於 2008-1-10 22:53 發表


請不要段章取義阿,我說'如果你覺得我們以新抱身分和角度在網上論壇討論婆媳相處是不對的' - 那是回應post84.

無所謂啦,多講無益. 係師奶八婆又好,係三姑六婆又好,其實大家都係吹水o者o岩聽o米聽﹐唔o岩聽o米當時運 ...

Yui, I don't see how blueprint's post was 段章取義.  I think it was the other way around.  Let me explain.

1. I've explained it a several times that I don't think venting frustration is a problem when the issue has an impact on you.
2. In your example I clearly stated my feeling about "improvement", not about the "gossip".  And I did clearly stated your issue was not a gossip in my mind, and that I felt was alright and understandable to complain about.
3. The comment I made about 講是非 was a specific respond to another comment, and I explained it was meant to say we are sometimes doing the same things (WE, all of us, not just C9)

我聽日想食麵，因為想食Ｄ濕野，我會自己煮啦。
In this example, I didn't say 華美子 is being a bad daughter in law because of what she said.  I meant to give the reason why her mother in law felt upset.  And clearly she was upset.
My suggestion is simply don't say "我會自己煮".  Either just do it the next day and cook enough for your family or tell her, the next day, that you want to try your cooking skills.

big_tooth

"話明吐苦水，奶奶好既一面我都唔會係度講架啦，邊個人咁得閒開個thread 頌讚佢奶奶？開thread 讚自己阿媽都無啦。"
Same as don't expect your mother in law to apologize for messing up your cookwares lor.  Besides, we have time to bitch but no time to praise? What is wrong with this picture leh?

"我講十樣野，比人抽我五樣野黎插，但係好奇怪，個五樣野其實已經係我之前既thread解釋左，但插我既人都好似睇唔到咁，因此我都無謂浪費口水。"
Have you thought about that maybe your 5 things are really bad leh.  Sorry to be blunt, but the more explanation given, the more I see the mother-in-law's side lor.

"同男人講生仔產前產彼點辛苦，side 氣，等於對牛彈琴。wait till you have a kid of your own and you have to stay home dealing with the crying baby day and night and at the same time living with your mother-in-law, then you'll truely understand."
Sorry, disagree.  If husband is not a stay at home dad, then he goes to work, dealt with all the problems there, then come home and deal with the kids' having way too much fun during the day and getting all cranky at night.  There is no rest time during the day, definitely no rest time during the night until all kids are asleep.  Listen to the mom's complaint, then listen to the wife's before going to bed.  And there is the weekend where he is home dealing with the crying babies and at the same time living with your mother (or inlaws)......

Point is, WE UNDERSTAND.

[ 本帖最後由 big_tooth 於 2008-1-11 04:17 編輯 ]

blueprint

原帖由 華美子 於 2008-1-10 23:32 發表
話明吐苦水，奶奶好既一面我都唔會係度講架啦，邊個人咁得閒開個thread 頌讚佢奶奶？開thread 讚自己阿媽都無啦。

人家只知道你奶奶"所謂不好"的一面，對不對？ 不好意思，就是這些態度，我不敢恭維‧

不要以為不認同你，和你不同的聲音就一定是沒有經過你說的甚麼產前產後，沒有與奶奶或外母住過等等‧ 男人未必不能了解的，特別是做人老公的，為什麼不能不了解呢?  人人不是你，也不是你老公‧ 我結了婚七年了，有兩個小孩了‧ 在我產前產後，我媽和我的奶奶都有和我們同住過，而發生了很多磨擦，但仍然是個好的家庭‧ 而這一個我，現在有份說你態度不敢恭維，那是不是有些地方要想一想呢? 不是要你反省這種語氣，我不敢當‧ 只想讓你了解為什麼我會可憐你奶奶多於你‧

echo

原帖由 ordinary_girl 於 2008-1-10 23:07 發表
for god's sake why don't the guys try to live with their mother-in-laws for a change and see can you handle it

我同我外父外母一齊住過兩年, 當然好多野唔習慣啦, 互相忍讓, 互相尊重, 放開 D.

佢地有唔岩O既我都會出聲, 我有唔岩都要佢地指點.

there is no mistake, only lesson.

華美子

我都唔想side時間爭論，點都好，多謝你地既意見。

[ 本帖最後由 華美子 於 2008-1-11 10:56 編輯 ]

blueprint

我知道你改了，但想說句，你所謂的解釋根本不是我說的問題‧   我的問題其實集中在這個論壇裡，談及你的case的種種當中，你所持有的態度‧

太客氣了，大家都只是討論一下而已‧ 如果讓你覺得是爭論，我在此道歉‧

ordinary_girl

原帖由 chunsh 於 2008-1-10 23:15 發表


if the lai lai insist to live with her son and his wife, then it would be the lai lai's fault
but if u pay attention to the original story, its the son and the wife need the lai lai to come to take  ...

i'm sorry but there's no way that i'm gonna read through all those arguments b4 posting. I'm just referring to the starting post of this thread and just wanted to post my own POV and therefore i didn't see where the "original" story is. If you are referring to a reply that is hidden somewhere in this 10 pages of replies or even a post from another thread, then i can't see how
"original" the story is . Besides, i'm not looking to join in the pointless arguments either

and as for ur info, i'm not a religious believer and i don't believe in god~ "for god's sake" is only a saying that everyone uses on a normal basis and i absoultely can't see any problem in using that phase. But if it will make u feel better, then I'm sorry for bothering your god