do not be too honest to gf, in most cases a little lie is neccessary, the bottom line is to hide the things that will damage the relationship and keep it with yourself unless it is something that she can help, your goal is to make them happy and feel safe, not to get them upsad, mad or feel unsecure. Regardness of how good you treated her in action. Thats how i lost my xgf that dated for 7 years because I was way too honest on everything and told her everything.
do not be too honest to gf, in most cases a little lie is neccessary, the bottom line is to hide the things that will damage the relationship and keep it with yourself unless it is something that she ...
shock28 發表於 6-4-2009 10:46
what did you tell your ex and make her leave? girls won't give that up easily..especially for 7 yrs...
you are right, she did not give up easily, in fact, she tolerated me for many years but i was just too self-centered as its a very long story. I complained and told her many things that were not going to help the problem, stuff like she cant take a good photo of me when i was playing sports while other friend's gf can take better photo than her. And when we were playing world of warcraft together, she made mistakes and screwed things up then i got upsad and complained. The sadest thing was that i never talk about my relationship with any friends at all until we broke up so i didnt know i need to change as i was too self-centered. But borderline of costing the break up was because I told her all my feelings and hided nothing from her. There was a girl that i liked before I dated her but that girl moved back to taipei so it didnt work out. Until recently i started chatting with that girl again and all the feelings came back, then i told my xgf about it and she got very very upsad. I even told my xgf that we should go to taipei to visit that girl as I was so inconsiderate of her feelings. So we broke up because she can not accept i have other woman in my heart even tho i didnt consdier that was it. But then I did visit taipei to see that girl for almost 2 weeks and we did get together but to be honest I wasnt that happy because when i was in taipei, i kept thinking of my xgf, I even went outside of my xgf's home in taipei for few hours just walked around did nothing by myself. 2 months after i came back from taipei, that girl cheated on me and dated a local guy in taipei, i found out because one of her local male friend told me(guys always help guys)
I did not get upsad about it becuase i felt its a punishment that I deserved. if god gave me a chance to go back, i would teach her what to do to improve things instead of complained, or just accept the way she is as no one is perfect. And of course to not tell her things that would damage the relationship specially nothing was firm. Because afterall, she is a very smart girl as she is going to become a doctor, and ever since she dated me, she speak cantonese like a honger as we watched a lot of tvb dramas and hong kong movies together while she got me speaking mandarin like a taiwanese. I really love her even tho I always complained because i treated her like a family member. She used to play almost every video games with me, like counter strike, warcraft 3, world of warcraft. I really enjoyed to play with her and my friends were so jealous because none of their gf play video/pc games.
Right now I totally quit playing video/pc games as they will remind me of her. I consdier myself as a very considerate guy now as i know what i want in life but i think she dated 2 other guys after me within a year then broke up pretty quick because she is very picky on bf now......
發表於 2009-3-29 21:15
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哇 151頁 好勁啊
