Alcoholic

原帖由 SAZABI 於 2008-3-26 09:19 AM 發表
Yeah, I don't like girls trying to act cute too.

But, I think if her target(s) buy it, then she wins.
And surprisingly, most of the time, I see the guy(s) enjoy it...

guys only buy 嗲 during 熱戀期 because guys like the feeling of satisfaction when his target 嗲, which to them = chance & success rate

kaimui22

i personally don't 嗲 and it drives my husband crazy
he thinks girls should know how to 撒嬌 ...but it's just not me

i've also had guy friends ask me why i don't 嗲 or even try to talk in a cute voice...they think it would make me so much more attractive....ha..i talk in my normal voice normally and i'm not at all 溫柔

i dunno..i think back in university, i USED to be those girls who liked to 撒嬌, but after a while, I just found it tiring and unnecessary..

i guess the reason for me no longer wanting to 嗲 is because I got married...now my relationship is more like 親情 than 愛情..also, i can't imagine 嗲-ing my husband in front of my kid

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by the way, the guys I mention above are TWnese guys...they expect most girls to 嗲 or 撒嬌 naturally..because a lot of taiwanese girls are very 嗲

and...嗲 doesn't necessary mean 痴身
a girl can be independent without her bf..
but when her bf is around, she might use 嗲 to get what she wants...(eg, 哇~ 個包包好美啊... 哎喲﹐咁貴啊... babee...點算好啊~~~) <-- while wrapping arms around bf...

Alcoholic

原帖由 kaimui22 於 2008-3-26 09:22 AM 發表
and...嗲 doesn't necessary mean 痴身
a girl can be independent without her bf..
but when her bf is around, she might use 嗲 to get what she wants...(eg, 哇~ 個包包好美啊... 哎喲﹐咁貴啊... babee...點算好啊~~~) <-- while wrapping arms around bf...

HAHAHAHHAHAAHA
i agree! especially some TW girls & some honger girls are so 嗲!
and this example that you gave... is a type of what i call fake 嗲!

hmm...
i still 嗲  my hubby geh~ cus i still feel the 愛情. & i 嗲 in a way that it's my personality & i'm not faking it or trying to get something out of it. it makes my hubby laugh. of course, i'm not 嗲 consistently lah. it's just when i feel like it, & from my heart.

but i worry after i poop out a kid, then this type of happy 2-people-world will not exist anymore, because as you say, you can't/don't want to 嗲 in front of your kid.

kaimui22

alc:
i can't stand it when I see those girls who fake 嗲..but SO MANY girls do it to get what they want....it's sad but that's the culture nowadays. A girl who cannot afford something might use their 嗲功  to get what they want....

but then again...i think it's okay for little girls to 嗲...but when I see girls (women) that have reached my age..i can't stand it..come on, you're old enough to earn enough to support yourself....please don't mis-use your 嗲 to get something that you can afford!

要嗲也要看本錢...

once you have a kid..the first year you don't even think about 愛情...it's sad but it's true. suddenly your world revolves around the baby and everything you do is to please/calm down the baby...so...it's hard to 嗲 your husband..

but then again, if you have a good babysitter, you can probably get away for a weekend or two for some romance...but then again, the getaway might all be passion and none of the 熱戀期嗲法

MoiRhapsody

曾經看過一篇文章說「媚」。
說媚有三個層次：貓、狸、狐。
貓就是要主動向人撒撒嬌，你才會注意：喔，這裏有隻貓。
狸就是愛理不理的，站在那裏，你自然的就會看：喂！那裏有隻狸！！
狐可不得了，她什麼都不用做，你看見她，什麼也不用說，就跟著她跑，非要捉著她不可。

Alcoholic

kaimui:
exactly!
i enjoy it much more when i buy my expensive sh!t with my own money. i only let my hubby buy me expensive things for special occasions only if at that time i really have my mind set on buying something i like which happens to be expensive.

girls who 嗲 to get items to me is CHEAP & they're only a 貨 that can be leased using money & materialism. girls who 嗲 in hope of strapping down their man to me is an unattractive asset (as you say, 要嗲也要看本錢) that only relies on 嗲 in order to keep the relationship running.

hmm... you're doing a GREAT job of scaring me how having a baby will change various ways of your love life

Alcoholic

原帖由 MoiRhapsody 於 2008-3-26 10:12 AM 發表
曾經看過一篇文章說「媚」。
說媚有三個層次：貓、狸、狐。
貓就是要主動向人撒撒嬌，你才會注意：喔，這裏有隻貓。
狸就是愛理不理的，站在那裏，你自然的就會看：喂！那裏有隻狸！！
狐可不得了，她什麼都不用做，你看見她，什麼也不用說，就跟 ...

好似講都所有女人都係衰
貓 = 嗲
狸 = 酤
狐 = 姣

makten

I don't like girls that are too 嗲...it's very annoying if they're doing it on purpose...
In a relationship...I don't like being 嗲 too much...If my gf 嗲 me to get me to do something...I'll probably ignore her...
My ex said that her exs didn't like her being so independent so she was super 痴身 when we first started as a test...I couldn't stand it..and we broke up after 2 months...A year later, we got back together, she knew that it'll irritate me, so she stopped doing that....but every now and then she'll pull one of those 嗲 action...

angeldevil

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2008-3-26 10:54 發表
kaimui:
exactly!
i enjoy it much more when i buy my expensive sh!t with my own money. i only let my hubby buy me expensive things for special occasions only if at that time i really have my mind set  ...

EXACTLY!!!!! I don't like to 嗲 to get stuffs either... so I never really asked my honey to buy me anything other than snacks... ^Q^
but the 撒嬌 point, I don't really get it...
that's the thing I don't get.
like I didn't pay attention to what I do coz all the reaction in front of my honey are all true reflection of my emotion... ((except sometimes I hide it when I'm feeling sad coz I don't want him to be worried))
but then I don't know what is 撒嬌 either..
not only my bf, my mom always complained that I'm more like a son than daughter...
coz same thing, I never 撒嬌 to my mom & I never asked my parents to buy me anything..
so I never really 撒嬌/嗲 my parents... =/
but they said back when I was little, I used to do those... so.. I really wanna figure out what really is 撒嬌 like...& 嗲 like..
=/

& to me,  嗲ppl to buy u stuffs = 姣
so, now I'm kinda confused.. what is 嗲, 姣, 撒嬌..?
but isn't.. when it comes to the situation that ppl use it as a tools to get what they want, its more likely to be 姣...

can I say that when u'r abusing 嗲 to get attentions/ get something in return, it became 姣?
& 撒嬌 is more the kid way????
please correct my 觀念s... thx^^

& btw, what's "酤" ??

[ 本帖最後由 angeldevil 於 2008-3-26 14:10 編輯 ]

Alcoholic

AD,
撒嬌 & 嗲 to me is the same thing i THINK. i'd take it as 嗲 = slang word for 撒嬌.
i don't 撒嬌 to ask parents to buy me things. actually, i don't ask parents to buy me things. even if i do, i pay them back. but i do admit i will 嗲 my mom sometimes...like sometimes when we go out, i like to "Q" her arms & walk in the mall etc. or other times 嗲 just like a funny action sort of thing/communication. but i 嗲  her cus i super super sek my mom.

sorry, i think i type wrong word 酤... i meant as in "cool"...you know, how some tw chinese words neh~