RayRay

Your mom can have Chinese New Year in Hong Kong then attending wedding party in March.

Double Happanies  喜喜

布小熊

well.. for destination wedding, I don't think couple will pay for guests' expanses. But it's really an honor to be invited!
I felt so bad missing my friend's destination wedding in NZ. I got a short notice less than 6 months (I knew about her wedding but I didn't know if I will be invited or not... cos it's at a resort there...). I went to Europe that same year and was so broke. And air tix to NZ was expansive... etc.
Well thinking back, I really wished I had gone to her wedding. It's a nice intimate wedding. And both the groom and bride lives in Vancouver. So I do get to see them very often.... just that I missed their wedding.

katamari

其實可能我唔能夠講得晒我地Ｏ既struggle 因為好難交待清楚而凡事都有story behind，我都明你地所講既野，但gum簡單就唔係難題啦。同埋我好honest地承認我既想法會比你地自私，所以你地所講Ｏ既我未必會有一樣的感受，不過都好多謝你地o既意見

Ultraman

原帖由 布小熊 於 2008-5-18 22:16 發表
well.. for destination wedding, I don't think couple will pay for guests' expanses. But it's really an honor to be invited!
I felt so bad missing my friend's destination wedding in NZ. I got a short  ...

Are you kidding?! If I were the couple, what am I going to lose to invite all the people who know me to attend my OVERSEAS WEDDING? Since they all pay for their own expense such as needed air tickets, accommodation, local transports, meals... etc. To me, it's as simple as to invite my local friends la! I don't really see how "honorable" wor. In fact, if the couple arranges all the stuff as above and invite me to go, then I am honored and greatly appreciated lor! Moreover, I would pay more "money gift" as usual tim!

katamari

原帖由 Ultraman 於 2008-5-18 22:46 發表

Are you kidding?! If I were the couple, what am I going to lose to invite all the people who know me to attend my OVERSEAS WEDDING? Since they all pay for their own expense such as needed air tickets ...

haha you are just too greedy

Ultraman

原帖由 katamari 於 2008-5-18 22:47 發表


haha you are just too greedy

Well, can't really say I'm greedy. But on the other hand, shouldn't the couple being considerate, and care for their friends/relatives for they don't even been to the destination location, and can't speak the language (Japanese wor?! I don't think most people can speak lor...) at all? Despite the air tickets (which they can book for themselves easily in their own countries), at least should provide accommodation and local transportation la!

katamari

when I was married, I never thought of inviting someone who had to travel long way from somewhere out there to my wedding because I was thinking in an opposite way.... this was too much stress and $$ for my dear friends, and this was not considerate if you don't ask if they are ok first then invite and assume your guests will come.  Yea, this is me

Ultraman: I don't think I want to ask my friend for providing accommodation or tix.....

katamari

原帖由 RayRay 於 2008-5-18 22:12 發表
Your mom can have Chinese New Year in Hong Kong then attending wedding party in March.

Double Happanies  喜喜

There must be a reason why my mom needs to go to HK in November, but I think I'm gonna ask my mom if she wants to go to the wedding tomorrow, nothing to lose geh hahaha

布小熊

原帖由 Ultraman 於 2008-5-18 10:46 PM 發表

Are you kidding?! If I were the couple, what am I going to lose to invite all the people who know me to attend my OVERSEAS WEDDING? Since they all pay for their own expense such as needed air tickets ...

it's at a REALLY nice resort. So they had very limited number of people that they can invite to it. (less than 40 including families) They did help arrange accommodation but NOT paying for it.

I think this is the norm. Just like people flying from HK to Vancouver to attend weddings. Do you expect to pay for all their accommodation and air tix? Or wedding in HK? I guess many of you went to HK for weddings... do you expect your friend to pay for air tix to HK?

But for katamari, it's OK if you tell your friend that you cannot go. Just want to share my thoughts.

[ 本帖最後由 布小熊 於 2008-5-18 23:05 編輯 ]

fibbi

Well...I don't think I would expect friends to come oversea for wedding. It's not a small amount of $ and also time. What if you can't take that long vacation that time. My mom is nice that she pays for 3 nights hotel for oversea guests (my mom's friend). But I won't be able to afford that myself. I think your friend will understand that la.