Alcoholic

Mr.Lik,
That's why you need to find one that's 靚女, 入得廚房，出得廳堂, 上得大床 , & know how to tum your mom

Alcoholic

原帖由 Ultraman 於 2008-1-7 11:28 PM 發表
Some "外母" think their daughters' husbands always "蝦" their daughters in a regular basis... ! :tk ...

my lai-lai thinks 我食住我老公添啦~
it's like, if you be quiet & be a little woman, & let hubby feed you food etc, 又唔得...she will think that hubby 冇地位.
if you ask your hubby to help you this & that, 又唔得, she will think you're bossing hubby around.

hard to satisfy lai-lai... unless they're the type that super super adores you before you get married, & she actually pushes/blows you guys to get married type.

few days ago, my lai-lai 莫明奇妙地 said that i step down on my hubby infront of other people!!!!
infront of MY mom when we eat out for dinner, she said to me: "以後唔好係人面前step你老公喇, 知道未呀？"
my mom gave me a weird look, & i was like: "..........wtf" i very sick, so i just turned away & continue to chat with my mom like nothing happened.
later, i ask my hubby why the hell did she say that out of nowhere. (cus' he was talking to her about that after i acted like nothing & turned to talked to my mom)
my hubby said that my lai-lai said:
- how i sometimes say some chinese people dress weird on the street.
- how i don't enjoy TVB series because the plot is gay, long & nagging
- said i made fun of hubby's english infront of other people
---------> related to ME STEPPING ON MY HUBBY INFRONT OF OTHER PEOPLE!!!!!!
- first of all, i barely speak english infront of lai-lai's family because they're all chinese. so i give them respect by try my hardest to speak chinese unless i really can't explain myself/know a term in chinese. just rare case, maybe i'll chat in english with my hubby's cousins when they're around.
- both me & my hubby don't recall a time i made fun of him infront of his family. why would i even do that when i'm proud of my hubby & wants the whole world to know how great he is to me! when my hubby ask lai-lai when did i ever do that, she 又講唔出. totally not logical!!! & what i like, what i don't like is MY preference. & it's not like we all don't look at weird people on the street anyways...

so, the consensus is: my lai-lai is mo-liu! it's not the first time she made up crap! (other stories, but i wont bother saying it here, 費事比人話我地 D housewifes are "too talkative") even when i talk to my mom afterward, my mom thinks it's bs because she knows i act proper infront of my in-laws! at least infront of my mom & dad's friends, relatives etc, i have never yet disappointed my parents! so my mom told me to just ignore it because she knows me best.

conclusion is:
bored chinese lai-lai VS cbc-ish white-washed contemporary housewife.

[ 本帖最後由 Alcoholic 於 2008-1-8 08:58 編輯 ]

chunsh

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2008-1-8 08:31 發表 [so, the consensus is: my lai-lai is mo-liu! it's not the first time she made up crap! (other stories, but i wont bother saying it here, 費事比人話我地 D housewifes are "too talkative") even when i talk to my mom afterward, my mom thinks it's bs because she knows i act proper infront of my in-laws! at least infront of my mom & dad's friends, relatives etc, i have never yet disappointed my parents! so my mom told me to just ignore it because she knows me best.

I am not standing right besides you and do telepathing to u and your family members to judge who is right and who is wrong, but.....

first of all, people (including u and me and others) tend to think we did everything right and if someone unhappy about us, its their fault.

second, most parents always think their children did things right and their parents-in-law and/or spouses treat their children bad

if you think all conflicts/arguments are other people's problems, u already have problems. In fact, in most arguments/conflicts                              , both side also have problems

cheers

Purpleheart

我同男朋友未結婚, 不過已經一齊左三年~~ 佢媽媽由對我客客氣氣到毫不客氣

作為長輩,  佢好鐘意訓話~ 仲要訓足我同我男朋友幾個鐘~ 都算~~~ 有一次去飲茶, 我男朋友做柴可夫, 到酒樓門口, 我同佢媽咪落車先, 柴可夫去找車位 ~ 到有台喇~ 佢媽咪一坐低就開始訓話, " 阿女, 你知唔知道做人最基本既係由做家務開始....你看看好多成功人士, 佢地之所以成功係因為佢地執到間屋齊齊整整.........( 10000000 words deleted )" 仲係用想全酒樓都聽到既聲量黎講~~~ 真係好尷尬~ 又唔可以叫佢 shut up~

好在我靈機一足~~~ 我望出窗同佢媽咪講 " 咦~ 柴可夫 找到車位喇~ 佢好似唔係好識泊車wor....我去幫佢睇位先 " 一出到門口柴可夫已經泊完車我即刻叫救命!!! 入到酒樓佢媽咪繼續訓話, 食飽又訓, 訓飽又食!!
到最後埋單~ 原本佢媽咪俾錢~ 我立即(皮笑肉不笑的)話 " 唔駛喇Auntie, 我請啦~~ 一直以來我都未請過你飲茶, 我剛剛加左人工嘛~~ 今次等我請啦!!!  "

由我俾完錢到柴可夫車我地返屋企 ( 二十分鐘車程 )佢媽咪都冇出聲, 亦唔再訓話, 仲笑住口話 "多謝你請我飲茶!!!"

Auntie 的心事真奇怪 !!!!!!!!!!

So there are lots of ways to solve the problem....

Alcoholic

nonono
my point is:
- when people (such as lai-lai's in these cases) don't have logical  evidence that you did something wrong,  they shouldn't judge anyone in the first place.

- first, most people don't think what they do is right... they do what their natural response is at that moment. in my case, i didn't even do what she claimed i did... & my hubby agrees.  & when people make irrational judgements with illogical claims about you, it is only their fault because there's nothing misleading & contraversial about your actions.

- secondly, disciplined chinese families always humble about the behavior of the children and correct them when they're wrong. if i did/say anything "wrong" my hubby/parents would tell me quietly in my ears, or talk about it when we get home & VS (happened before, very rare). btw, my family thinks my hubby treats me like gold. my family always ask me to treat my hubby good too (not like i don't, but they just want us to treat each other well with happiness).

most likely, there are problems on both sides when there's a conflict. but does that mean 100%? nope. especially when what my lai-lai said totally didn't even make sense altogether.

if my hubby agrees with my lai-lai that i should give him some face & respect infront of other people, of course it's my problem.

i hope you read my points carefully:
(true) looking at people who dress weird
+
(true) not liking to watch TVB series
+
(accusing) i said my hubby has bad english
does not = i step on my hubby infront of other people

if i tell you that my hubby's sibling used to spy on me before, & tells my lai-lai twisted facts. is that supposed to be my problem too? i sure hope not it's my problem too man. cus i don't even know that person other than name, age, & that it's my hubby's sibling.

[ 本帖最後由 Alcoholic 於 2008-1-8 15:24 編輯 ]

chunsh

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2008-1-8 15:19 發表
nonono
my point is:
- when people (such as lai-lai's in these cases) don't have logical  evidence that you did something wrong,  they shouldn't judge anyone in the first place.

- first, most people  ...

haha, as I said, I didnt standing besides you and your family so I can't judge who is right and who is wrong. I was just trying state that problems are USUALLY on both sides but I am not saying u have done something wrong. But you will be the one who become unhappy and angry if you keep thinking that ALL troubles/conflicts are caused by others.

cheers

Alcoholic

chunsh,

i'm not unhappy cus it's "all" the troubles are caused by others. i would just be happier if they have a problem with me for any dumb but logical reason at all...like... even if they don't like my exsistence! rather than for unreasonable "reasons". like, if my lai-lai is kinda like Purpleheart's bf's mom... who likes to "teach" people for the sake of goodness & being proper, likes to act like a wise elder...that's fine, i totally buy that. but don't tell me because i don't like TVB series, or that weird people catches my eye lor, & never even seen me "teach" my hubby infront of other people.

and i would appreciate it if people think like how some lyk think: have problem, then talk it out. or even say it in my face... rather than having a 1/2-random 28 year unmarried old kid spying on some poor 25 year old housewife

[ 本帖最後由 Alcoholic 於 2008-1-8 16:51 編輯 ]

superberry

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Littleprince

原帖由 blueprint 於 2008-1-8 03:28 發表


I think you're right.  More to this point, just as they are 鐘意講是非, aren't we not doing the same sometimes by talking bad things about people on the internet?

你講得真係o岩﹐provided 你識得我或者我奶奶。。。但可惜呢﹐你又唔識播。。。TOO BAD。。。SO IT IS TOTALLY WRONG。。。

[ 本帖最後由 Littleprince 於 2008-1-8 18:48 編輯 ]

Littleprince

hi chunsh,

you said "nothing personal, just state the fact. When people getting old, they (we) will be become talkative, and in many cases, too talkative. '

我希望唔會變成這種人啦。。。人越老的確越長氣。。。但我覺得你 MISSED 左我個 POINT﹐我唔係話她長氣﹐你識得分“長氣”﹐同埋“長舌”嗎﹖

BTW﹐有樣野叫做“性格”﹐有種人係特別鐘意講是非﹐唔理幾多歲。。。但有d人就無興趣別人的閑話﹐舉例其中一種 STUDY 叫九型人格﹐類似的 STUDY 坊間還有許多。。。乜無人話你知咩﹖

[ 本帖最後由 Littleprince 於 2008-1-8 18:50 編輯 ]