Purpleheart

thank you for all the comments and suggestion!!

估唔到男同女唔單只對愛情的看法不同~ 連交朋友的看法都係唔一樣~~

" 如果你唔係精神有問題, 以為自己好有錢, 再周圍吋人. 你應該會搵到朋友. "

真係咁簡單就好喇~~


Utopia, 我同你既性格都係一樣~~ 我來自單親家庭~~ 細個屋企人驚我學壞,  就同我講叫我唔好太輕易信人~ 又唔俾我同朋友仔出街~ 由
細到大都係孤獨精~~~ 所以我都係好保護自己~~~ 我知道如果我信任o個個人同埋有安全感, 我就會同o個個人 好多野講~~


布小熊你說得對, 有時唔一定要 force自己同人 friend~ 但我所指身邊所認識的女仔都係公司, ~ 一到 lunch 就成堆圍埋講人壞話, 評論人地的
衣著同化妝~ 天呀~ 日日如是~~~當然由於我唔係佢地既圈子, 佢地一見我走開就講我~~ 工作上又針對我~~~ 唉~~~

siumaibb

原帖由 Purpleheart 於 2008-4-16 19:47 發表
布小熊你說得對, 有時唔一定要 force自己同人 friend~ 但我所指身邊所認識的女仔都係公司, ~ 一到 lunch 就成堆圍埋講人壞話, 評論人地的
衣著同化妝~ 天呀~ 日日如是~~~當然由於我唔係佢地既圈子, 佢地一見我走開就講我~~ 工作上又針對我~~~ 唉~~~

你唔埋堆又點知人地講你？
OK, 就算佢地真係講你，佢地講你咩野？
有無諗過點解好地地人地會講你？點解人地會針對你？

我咁問係因為你講到你自己無乜點，但係就有班八婆睇你唔順眼同你過唔去。我覺得就算你唔埋堆，佢地咪最多唔理你，無啦啦點會睇你唔順眼，一定係你做左某D野(可以係好係壞)

Anyway, 如果你唔想改變自己我諗你最好搵過份工，如果你晌加拿大做野，鬼老公司應該無咁多講是非八婆(起碼我做跟果間無)，如果你晌香港做野，乾脆份多男少女既工做囉

utopia

Purpleheart,

I agree with siumaibb, I'm not saying you are wrong but you sounds like the "old me". Talk to your bf or friends, ask them what do they think about you. Not saying the goods but bad. It hurts but open your heart and listen and try to address it.

Sometimes, we just don't realize little things and habit can drive people nuts. Especially, if you remain quiet at work, the misunderstood will just getting worse. Not saying you have to argue with them but just pick a better opportunities to explain.

Don't just say to yourself, I'm innocent and I'm a good person  and I don' t mean that way. Try to put yourself in their shoes, then you will find a difference. Good luck .

superberry

ya, do you assume people talking about you, or you heard them whispering "Purpleheart sucks"? When I was young (geeee, sounds like I am an old biscuit), I lacked self-confidence. Whenever people whispered, I assumed they were talking about me.

For working environment, as long as you are doing you job, not being too lazy, too inch or brushing your boss's shoes too obviously, who cares what other people say or think!  As long as you are breathing, someone will talk about you, and there's always someone who do not like you....... like other people said, do a self-reflection. If there's nothing wrong with you, then who cares what other people say!

ps. I hate working in Chinese companies too..... those "bat por"  love gossiping

Babida

人來人往
:-\

Purpleheart

我從來冇話自己 innocent, 無辜, 好人,  受害者,
我亦唔擦鞋, 唔做金手指, 亦懶得同老細 BS.......我希望我老細每日 五點準時o係我面前消失!! haha

我只係有個疑問點解人與人之間要如此複雜~~~

其實我又何嘗唔係同佢地一樣, 返工等放 lunch, 食完 lunch 等放工然後無驚無險又 一 day
自從我升左咪出事囉~  我係唔出聲做野o個種人~~ 唔係勤力~ 只係想日日 無驚無險又 一天, 咪做好o的唔好俾人鬧囉
我做野唔好架~~~ 以前日日俾人鬧~~~ 但佢地有冇想過~ 如果佢地係老細~~ 會唔會升一個終日搞小圈子, 淨係圍埋說三道四唔做野既人 ??

你們說得很有道理o的人就係唔識檢討自己~~~
我亦唔會 care 人地的想法~~~總之做好自己~

這幾天我也想通了~~ " 珍惜自己擁有的朋友 , 那些令自己唔開心的人不要浪費時間為他們煩惱 "

Yui

原帖由 Babida 於 2008-4-17 20:45 發表
人來人往
:-\

緣來緣去

utopia

你們說得很有道理o的人就係唔識檢討自己~~~
我亦唔會 care 人地的想法~~~----> I hope you are not talking about people here on LYK who try to help you because I re-read the posts. I can only sense straightforward but not aggressive tone.

I guess my English is not good enough to express myself.
By saying innocent, I mean "not guilty" .

我亦唔會 care 人地的想法 ---> then you should never started this topic and ask for opinions. Opinions hurts sometimes, that's why I mentioned, open your heart to listen to opinions, even the bad comments.

If you are looking for comfort, you should stated earlier, so that we can response accordingly.

Work place is never an easy place to survive. There is no differences between Caucasian Company or Chinese company. It just Chinese do it on the surface or too obvious but Caucasian use a more subtle tone.

If you really seeking for help and want to improve the situation, you can buy some people skill self help book without hearing " harsh" comment.

p.s. I'm not picking a fight nor being against you. you can ignore my post if you want

chunsh

u want people to like u?
rules of thumbs: when people ask for opinions about things, u should first ask him/her about what is his/her OWN idea about what he/she is asking. Then u should give the opinion which follow his/her own opinion (except he/she is asking if he/she should kill him/herself)

everything has trade-off. u want someone to like u, u need to do/say something he/she like. The negative sideof my approach is needless to say, u guys can figure out