katamari

原帖由 布小熊 於 2008-5-18 23:04 發表

it's at a REALLY nice resort. So they had very limited number of people that they can invite to it. (less than 40 including families) They did help arrange accommodation but NOT paying for it.

I th ...

I guess it's the location that we're concerned of. If it's in HK I might go if time permits and no conflict like this time, because this is somewhere I am familiar with. The other way round, my husband didn't invite his old school HK best friend to his Vancouver wedding because his friend knew nothing about here and he would be alone in the city without him, in this way we rather not asking him to come over we did think this is another type of consideration isn't it?

Wedding is always a happy but man fan thing, don't you think so?

fibbi: I'm thinking the same way too... considering our guests would have to sacrifice a lot of things just because of my wedding, I didn't invite but just announcing the wedding. That's why I never expect my friends would invite me all the way to japan for his wedding, and I'd rather save the trip $$ and give him a bigger red pocket, and attend his wedding in Vancouver lor.

[ 本帖最後由 katamari 於 2008-5-18 23:46 編輯 ]

Ultraman

原帖由 布小熊 於 2008-5-18 23:04 發表

it's at a REALLY nice resort. So they had very limited number of people that they can invite to it. (less than 40 including families) They did help arrange accommodation but NOT paying for it.

I th ...

Hmm.... my personal pov to katamari's case is, since the location is Japan but not HK or Vancouver, it's quite different to people from HK traveling to Van or the other way round, which many people could be originally from HK, many of them have homes/connections or at least been traveling/living in both places before, and the most important thing is most people might able to speak in Chinese and English, it shouldn't be a problem for them to travel alone (ignoring money issues). However, katamari's case is, people originally from HK/Van need to travel to Japan, which is an "alien" country other than their home/familiar country. And I believe most of them can't communicate in Japanese (knowing that very rare Japanese can speak fluent English). That's why I mentioned air tix is easy and reasonable enough for guests to get their own, but accommodation and transportation is very important to the overseas guests lor. And actually for the benefit of the couple themselves, if they want to secure a certain amount of guests who is willing to go to their destination wedding in Japan, the less panic and concern the more guests would feel more comfortable to go ar mah!

大C姐

去得甘免強就咪鬼去啦。

你話近近哋去轉Vagas就話姐﹐十幾個鐘頭機真係人都癲。人唔到禮到咪算囉(最多做大份D人情)﹐人哋都應該遇左呢邊無咩人會去架啦﹐你又唔係近親﹗

我都有過類似經歷但係個wedding都係喺Ottawa﹐以我甘唔鍾意搭飛機又甘忙﹐真係唔願抽身出席。最後當然無到但係就喺Hermes做左份大禮。

-- 過得人過得自己既大C姐

katamari

哎．．．我最驚就係大Ｃ姐你所講gum“呢邊無咩人會去架啦”。阿新郎哥一定好棲涼呀。我真係一聽到他說求得成婚，帖都未發人都未問就話２０個人會到，哎gum唔比Ｄ人講就天下無敵咩。而呢２０個人就係家人之外全部男家賓客，萬一個個好似我地gum想過一輪之後一個二個話唔到，男家即係冇人到？！？ 我想到呢鼠又唔忍心唔去咯。

各位我知我好三心兩意架啦，有你地聽我呻下已經好好啦

marimo

No offense to the groom but isn't he kind of naive to expect 20 non-family guests from overseas would attend his wedding in Japan? How many of his family members are going? I mean his parents and siblings probably would have to go, but how about people like uncles, aunts and cousins? I doubt how many would go through all the trouble to go to Japan for his wedding. Besides, if he's coming back to Vancouver with his wife later, he can just hold another banquet or less formally, a regular dinner with friends and family here. Even if he doesn't want to do that, you guys can just hold a party for the couple as friends.

Guy

去得甘免強就咪鬼去啦。

AGREE

sillything

Sigh...

If you didn't care about money? Why miss such a big event? I would defintely go without think so much think. If you decide so long that mean you care about money too much. If the money problem, I would be so happy to go 2 times on Nov and March. This is totally 2 different activities, why you combine 2 together. If you still care about this friend, just go for it. If you think this friend is not so important than you think, then not going lor. If money and time create such a big problem than tell your fiend in th first place. Let him ignore you will arrive and don't reserve your space. I think they won't really care what you think at this time because they are very happy to go into next moment in their life now.

superberry

原帖由 Guy 於 2008-5-19 16:33 發表


AGREE

AGREE AGREE

If you are 徐子淇, 食飽無憂米, then you should go. Otherwise, just 做多D人情. If I were you, I would have the following feelings:

1. 俾人迫去. cuz he expected you to go before asking you. Where's the respect?
2. It is too pricy to go to Japan only for a small (probably boring) wedding
3. they will have another ceremony in Vancouver, not like you are not going to see them again.
4. I had a friend who was supposed to get married in HK. We bought tickets and everything..... then, wedding was cancelled right after we paid for the ticket!!!!

如果佢需要你地充撐場面, 甘佢應該包食宿 lor....... 因為你地已經唔係 guest, 係工具. 無理由因為佢人丁單薄而一定要俾面派對

[ 本帖最後由 superberry 於 2008-5-19 23:35 編輯 ]

katamari

Superberry，你講中曬我Ｄ憂慮呀！尤其係你話你試過

“a friend who was supposed to get married in HK. We bought tickets and everything..... then, wedding was cancelled right after we paid for the ticket!!!!”

我覺得我呢次係有呢個可能性囉！

不過我覺得我個朋友唔會當我係工具，ＢUT佢真係一個好天真的一個人

布小熊

原帖由 Guy 於 2008-5-19 04:33 PM 發表


AGREE

i agree with them too.