molamola

If you want make changes, you have to do something. Just moping is not going help.

But if you are totally happy with what you have now... who cares how other people's opinion. Life is short.. cant always live under other's expectation.

Alcoholic

原帖由 Wee 於 2008-6-10 08:32 AM 發表
just so easy to say "be independent and internally strong and don't rely on guys(or partner)" when one is young n' ruthless.  

it's all personal choice, whether stay single or enter a marriage with a ...

to me, if you don't marry a guy that you super super love in regardless of all the materialistic factors/offerings that he has to offer you.... that to me loses the meaning of "marriage". i'm not against the fact that alot of honger girls are like that, it's just that i'm saying i don't agree to it as a woman myself. so girls...don't take it personally please i got married because of him, i wanted to. now, i want to have a baby, cus of him, cus i want a family. before, after all those x-bastards, i don't wanna get married. even if i was with someone, i don't want the licence (my hubby convinced me to get it legalized).

i don't think the "independent & strong, not rely on men" has anything to do with age at all. if you only think that way when you're young, that only means you're just not honest to yourself. but no matter at what point in time you feel that way... it can change when you meet the right person. & VS.

don't get your hopes up
yet
don't get bummed out
just take it easy & let it come at you.

pepsis2

wow! great to hear all gals coming out to have their opinions voiced! that's the best thing in LOYAUKEE!

NE way, Let me reply sin:

Quaoted "seems that it is very common that a non-marriage relationship tends to end in 5-6 years, with the girl requests to end the relationship, even though both sides are committed to a further relationship, but cant advance for now because they are both too young, seeking further education, career advancements and financial stability etc etc"

For my ex-relationship, non of the aboved is true. I left him b/c of good reason: cheating & not committing at all.
So no need to stay in the relationship la!

Back to the topic of whether u feel u being pushed to get married by others surrounding. I'm  more concerned that some single gals when they are in their 20's or 30's, they thought they like to be single for that time being.. or feel ok of their current status, then later (in their late 30's) enter another stage that want a family or a kid or a partner or what-so-ever, & realize time is not on their favorite side. That's the saddest.

When I talk to my fds who unfortunately found themselves in that stage, all of them told me (sincerely) that if they realized it earlier, then everything may change.

So if u have very determined & ur goal is to be single forever, it's totally fine! but if u think.. oh maybe I just don't wanna be alone later in my life, gum why not realize it early. AT LEAST KNOW YOURSELF BETTER!

I think the process is more like reading a book. Different stage u read the same book u have different feeling toward it or u find your opinions slightly changed...

原帖由 pepsis2 於 2008-6-10 13:34 發表
For my ex-relationship, non of the aboved is true. I left him b/c of good reason: cheating & not committing at all.
So no need to stay in the relationship la!

but can you explain why one side may choose to end the relationship even though both sides are committed to advance the relationship when possible?

MyOMy

原帖由 ani 於 2008-6-8 20:43 發表
最近可能是因為上了年紀的關係
身邊越來越多人問我
婚期什麼時候呀?
有什麼打算呀?
etc etc etc

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我也不 ...

喂 ! 好似玩野唧，
睇真D, 邊處有"女人"會話自己 「上了年紀」架,
印象之中, ANI 好似未覆過 WOR.

原帖由 MyOMy 於 2008-6-10 14:11 發表


喂 ! 好似玩野唧，
睇真D, 邊處有"女人"會話自己 「上了年紀」架,
印象之中, ANI 好似未覆過 WOR.

i think that is actually very common though.  If they are desperate and think negatively, it is very likely that they will think that they are running out of time

布小熊

原帖由 Anonymous 於 2008-6-10 12:52 PM 發表

but can you explain why one side may choose to end the relationship even though both sides are committed to advance the relationship when possible?

I don't think it's possible for a breakup if both sides are happy with the relationship (i.e. u said both are committed). May be the girl see marriage at that stage is necessary to "advance" the relationship. And the guy see it differently.

布小熊

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2008-6-10 12:12 PM 發表

to me, if you don't marry a guy that you super super love in regardless of all the materialistic factors/offerings that he has to offer you.... that to me loses the meaning of "marriage". i'm not aga ...

haha I agree 100% with Alc this time on marrying your love and only your love!

"You don't marry someone that you can live with.
You marry someone you cannot live without!"

You will find life super hard to go by if you have to work thro the problem you encounter with someone you don't love.

[ 本帖最後由 布小熊 於 2008-6-10 13:43 編輯 ]

Wee

原帖由 布小熊 於 2008-6-10 14:42 發表

haha I agree 100% with Alc this time on marrying your love and only your love!

"You don't marry someone that you can live with.
You marry someone you cannot live without!"

You will find life supe ...

seriously not being sarcastic, i'm glad to see some ppl on this planet still believe in true love in a stranger-to-begin-with.
or probably i'm jsut the minority not-believing.

icetea28

Girls, just want to have fun..