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人老了就好似小孩子一樣, 我椚應該放開一點,他椚的不對, 也一笑至之吧.

看看一兩套老人家的 WMV 吧:

http://file.buda.idv.tw/multi/GSY01.wmv

http://file.buda.idv.tw/multi/GSY02.wmv

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When one has a set of habits, values, opinions, routines and others, it can be settled that way for a long time.  Because he/she believes in it, and it's how he/she lives and copes with his/her life.  Thus conflicts started when expectations cannot be met.

But it can be controlled. 華美子, it's not about hoping it all will end.  Your mother-in-law will come to realization, she will change or whatsoever.  It's you who need to find a way to accept her, to accept your differences.  Because it is something you do have control over.  OK, her cooking is bad, because she has to cook everything to almost like pureed form.  Well, how about thinking it's easier for chewing?  She ruined your kitchen appliances, how about thinking she is really not familiar with the tools?  What matters is she really care and want to help you guys.  Just don't know how to please you guys.  As a mom, who wants to be taken as a crazy maniac instead of an affectionate person?  Start accepting her, and it can be easier for all of you.

katamari

原帖由 Traum 於 2008-1-4 15:51 發表
Ultraman 同 Utopia, 你地唔係呀化？ 想兜口兜面數自己老爺／奶奶？！ 唔好玩啦。 你鍾意搞到六國大封相既話我絕對會支持你架...

好多人越老就越故執，越老又越要面。 人大到咁上下，年齡就好多時會同智慧成反比架啦。 唔係 ...

講出來唔代表數下話？除非你唔懂得有技巧同人與人溝通啦！你唔通開口埋口就數人０既？

華美子

相見好，同住難，尤其係一個連佢屋企人都頂佢唔順既人。

講咩野佢係我老公既阿媽，我點會唔知？係唔係因為佢係奶奶，我就連自己食乜都無自由？

係度寫出黎都只係伸下，無話要做咩野，因為我從來都無頂過佢半句。

今晚佢北比我地既湯，係已經變左，酸既。明知係變左，因為尋晚既事，我係佢面前都夾硬飲左落肚，只係食完飯佢行開時，我叫我老公唔好再飲，佢偷偷地倒左佢。

我都係媽咪，我要餵人奶，因此我食野都要好小心。比佢餵ＢＢ？梗係唔得啦，同佢講左幾次ＢＢ唔洗飲水，醫生話未到六個月唔餵得水，佢到依家都唔信，比佢餵，佢比咩野ＢＢ飲都唔知啦。平時佢最多都係自己抱下ＢＢ，餵奶就係我做。

華美子

我奶奶真係有心病，我生緊個時，佢係出面對我個妹數佢老公以前點對佢唔好。大佬，我個妹黎醫院係黎探我，唔係聽你鬧你老公。

為左多謝佢照顧左我地三個月，我地又買野ＴＵＭ佢又同佢食飯。我揍住個Ｂ都陪佢行街，只係監人食佢ｄ野呢下難頂Ｄ。

我唔同意因為老人家年紀大所以佢話乜都要遷就。有時都要睇下佢地既要求會唔會太過份。我媽咪話佢有個朋友既朋友嫁左比個寡母婆個仔，個阿媽要癡埋去honeymoon不但只，唔準佢兩公婆鎖房門，因為要時不時入房幫個仔ＣＯＭ被。有一晚入個仔房見到佢同個老婆咩緊，仲鬧個老婆係淫婦，呢Ｄ咪有心理病囉，結果兩公婆離婚收場。

無既，我吐下苦水姐，唔係要比番Ｄ面色奶奶睇。

皇家邪警

Humm......I think it really depends on what kinda mother she was and how she raise the kids. If you husband always respect her when he was young and always listen to what she said...suddenly she feels that her son has been "STOLEN" by some woman she might thinks that is the way to get her revenge that' what i think. I love my mom too but sometimes what she said is very very heart feeling....難頂 my mom was a single mother too but we have already discuss that in future if i want to..i can send her to old folks home so that she won't be left alone and have the same kinda of people around her so it can makes her feel like she is not alone otherwise when she is 80 and i am still 30 or 40 ...we will have a big generation gap. And yes maybe your problem is the Generation Gap lor....I have a friend her mom is only 18 yrs older than her.....she is married now and they live together happily without any problem. Age difference is also a big problem. Try to use the otherway around to communicate with her talk something that she likes and do somethign that she wants so that she can leave happily la!! GOOD LUCK!

yayaya

hahahaaa,,it's funny...
but I think every woman wants her family members to eat what she cook

Ultraman

原帖由 Traum 於 2008-1-4 15:51 發表
Ultraman 同 Utopia, 你地唔係呀化？ 想兜口兜面數自己老爺／奶奶？！ 唔好玩啦。 你鍾意搞到六國大封相既話我絕對會支持你架...

好多人越老就越故執，越老又越要面。 人大到咁上下，年齡就好多時會同智慧成反比架啦。 唔係 ...

If "數" is the only way you know to communicate, I feel very sorry for you lor! Do you need any suggestion for where to take some communication courses? Haha.....

Ultraman

原帖由 華美子 於 2008-1-4 20:01 發表
今晚佢北比我地既湯，係已經變左，酸既。明知係變左，因為尋晚既事，我係佢面前都夾硬飲左落肚，只係食完飯佢行開時，我叫我老公唔好再飲，佢偷偷地倒左佢。

What?! Are you older than your mother-in-law? Due to the benefit of doubt, you can't assume she knew the soup turned bad but still force you to eat! Cuz she is old, and you mentioned she has some kind of problem too, there is a great possibility that she didn't realize the soup turned bad already. And because you are younger and should be smarter and have a clearer mind than her, you have the responsibility to tell her the fact that the soup turned bad and everyone of you shouldn't eat! You tell her the truth not because of you don't give face to her, but on the other hand it's for her (and everyone's) health! You think you are a good mom, huh? Please reconsider what is a good mom!