“a friend who was supposed to get married in HK. We bought tickets and everything..... then, wedding was cancelled right after we paid for the ticket!!!!” ...
If he's 天真, then you need to show him the reality, ha ha ha
I was quite mad lor...... cuz we couldn't cancel the airline ticket, and it was Christmas. So the airline ticket was quite pricy. Luckily it was HK, we still went back to visit my grandma. However, we could have gone back in Jan instead to attend Kay's wedding, see a lot of stars, and the ticket would be much cheaper ...... but he didn't want the wedding cancelled anyway.
I think you felt pressured to go.... partly because your friend didn't handle it properly. He should have "check with people that he wants to invite first" before he even send you an invitation. Or mention that 20 people are "going" including you. (kind of putting all 20 ppl on the spot)
Wedding Guest List Etiquette
Destination Wedding Invitation Etiquette
Are you planning a destination wedding? Whether you're having your wedding in an exotic location or you've chosen a local venue, inviting out-of-town guests means it's a destination wedding for them. Therefore, it would be wise for you to become knowledgeable about destination wedding invitation etiquette.
When making the guest list, check with family and friends who live far away from the wedding location, and find out if they plan to attend. If they wish to attend, you should make arrangements for out-of-town guests before you send your destination weddings invitations.
If you have only a few out-of-town wedding guests, this will simplify the task. But if you're having several out-of-town guests, you will need to include lodging information, maps and even activities and events around the area. All of this information should be sent with the destination weddings invitations. In lieu of that, many couples create a web site with this information and put the URL on the destination weddings invitations.
The goal is to have all of this information researched, compiled and sent to guests so you don't have to do it when they get to town. Additionally, the guests will know that you appreciate that they have traveled so far for your special day.
I just got married in Toronto (since my hun & I just move to here due to work relocation), & we found out we're going to have a BB so we wanna get married before the BB is born.
Honestly I didnt expect any fd to fly all the way from Van to Tor just to attend my wedding.. but when my best fd came here to attend the wedding (plus travel & site see for 1 week & live in my house: another ^_^ b/c we had tons of "girl talk" at nite where my hun stayed in the spare room for the whole week), I am very very happy & grateful for her kindness. Although my wedding is extremely simple (only 4 guests attended; none of them are relatives), it's solemn & warm b/c she came all the way from Van to Tor to give us her blessing... she makes my Big date perfect!
Beside, we're gonna go back Van to "bai Jou" after the BB is born & becomes more stable to travel in flight (at least next spring). So I really dont' expect anyone to come... but it DID happen, it really really lights up the event...
Well.. sometimes u just can't have all...
If this happens on me, I will just go to the Van ceremony. And if it is 女家擺酒, then it makes more sense to me only for 女家 frds and relatives to go to Japan to attend the banquet.
If I get marry, I won't ask oversea friends and relatives to come to attend my wedding. I feel "ng ho yi c" since they need to spend a lot of money to come.
Everyone thanks for your input. We have finally decided to go to hokkaido in Oct/Nov with my mom. Talked to my friend he planned to have another banquet in Vancouver so it's going to be bride's side and groom's side separated.
原帖由 katamari 於 2008-5-24 22:53 發表
Everyone thanks for your input. We have finally decided to go to hokkaido in Oct/Nov with my mom. Talked to my friend he planned to have another banquet in Vancouver so it's going to be bride's side a ...
發表於 2008-5-20 09:52
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