fibbi

原帖由 kayllis 於 2009-3-4 12:20 發表
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i dont mean the ones you have mentioned is not important.. but in case if the couples couldnt find a solution... in worse case they can just hire a maid or something..=P

It's easier to say "hire a maid" to do housework than actually "hire a maid". Do you know the cost of the "maid" here? Can the couple afford the maid? It's not that easy, after paying mortgage, all household expense...not even mention the cost of kid (if there is any... If it's as easy as in HK (many family with Philipinno/Indonesian maid) life would be much easier here...

小叻

原帖由 fibbi 於 4-3-2009 11:26 發表
有好多時就係因為你認為我做，我認為你做，好多好似小事，積少成多，就會多咗拗撬。
大家拍拖嘅時候就係互相認識對方（主要係性格上），睇下夾唔夾，當然係認為夾嘅先會結婚，咁婚後又何來嫁錯／娶錯，拗撬通常都係來自啲好瑣碎嘅事，同埋錢  ...

結婚前講話ok ﹐婚後做唔做到又係另一回事啦~

小叻

最緊要都係性格﹐男女都要識得忍讓遷就啦~

邊少

原帖由 Purpleheart 於 2009-3-4 12:21 發表
從統計結果看來, 男人就算知道娶錯妻都唔會離婚.....原因是什麼呢?

女人覺得自己嫁錯郎就離婚, 是不是因為現今的女性都很理智呢?

responsibility
which men usually have in mind if he is a good man
but good women dont need to have responsibility

好女人可以好任性唔理後果
好男人一定想有responsibility

[ 本帖最後由 邊少 於 2009-3-4 13:22 編輯 ]

fibbi

原帖由 Purpleheart 於 2009-3-4 12:21 發表
從統計結果看來, 男人就算知道娶錯妻都唔會離婚.....原因是什麼呢?

女人覺得自己嫁錯郎就離婚, 是不是因為現今的女性都很理智呢?

Any source of this statistics? I am actually quite surprise to see this. I don't think woman is that easy to say "divorce" as well.

fibbi

原帖由 邊少 於 2009-3-4 12:54 發表
responsibility
which men usually have in mind if he is a good man
but good women dont need to have responsibility
好女人可以好任性唔理後果
好男人一定想有responsibility

邊少 must be a guy....
"好女人可以好任性唔理後果" --> Then that woman is certainly not "good woman".

Ultraman

Since men are from Mars and women are from Jupiter (or the other way round), it's very common they have different needs in a relationship/marriage.
Say "sense of security", women might feel "lack of security" for some reasons, but to men they usually don't have this abstract term in their dictionary and so probably they have no idea what it is and how to comfort their women. Therefore, communication by open discussion/sharing and acceptance is very important.

On the other hand, usually men would have a stronger "sense of responsibility" than women. Generally, they have stronger sense to "take care of their women" in mind. And plus when men are more rational (not all men at all times), they don't see big problem in a relationship (unless a "3rd party" is involved).

Women could be rational and/or irrational. For example, a woman decides to leave her man because no matter how hard he's been trying to do, she can't feel the love of him, her decision of leaving him is irrational. A woman can't bear her man being layoff for years but still lazy to look for a new job and choose to leave him, this is rational.

katamari

唔知點解當我setup個poll時我都係估女仔答會既比例係大Ｄ喎！可能通常拍拖講分手Ｄ男仔都拖泥帶水Ｄ哈哈。不過我唔同意離婚＝任性唔理後果，尤其係當外人唔知情既時候。因為真係有Ｄ關係婚後差到外人都想勸離婚不過唔敢開口。

我好同意布小熊所講「拍拖 and living together is very diff. You can 拍拖 for 10 years and still find a person totally different after moving together.」唔係淨係話家務或者經濟上的問題，on top of those可能會出現其他分岐呀。

我覺得如果為左「係時候結婚而結婚」的人既關係會比「因愛對方而結婚」脆弱得多，嫁錯／娶錯機會係大好多。

假設，問題已變得無可救藥，除左離婚大家就只有活在痛苦之中。 既然離婚＝任性，不過唔過唔離＝痛苦，gum你會唔會夠膽忍痛離婚，情願比人話你任性？

布小熊

important Quote:
"Do not marry someone whom you can live with,
"marry someone whom you cannot live without"

myversa

原帖由 小叻 於 2009-3-4 09:46 發表
應該交往一段長時間先結婚~ 我唔太睇好拍拖一兩年就結婚個D囉~

I am one of those who got married within 2 years and I guess I am the lucky one so I cannot really tell you the answer to this question.  

I do not think it's how long you two know each other; it's how well you two know each other and how well you two can live together.

Of course, I will never know the future but I will try my best to stay together.