Alcoholic

Yui,

hahaha.... my grandma hides her collection in similar ways too!

utopia

Ai.... Now listening to the C9 crew on LYK which make me worry.

Yesterday, same scenario happening again...... caveman squeeze out half day to "pui" his mom.......... then it happens like a cycle

1) Caveman told her in the future (in a very soft tone), her account will remain $5 (which he didn't finish the conversation yet). And she act up right the way said "What?? I have money in my account!!!" ...Then caveman didn't bother to argue with her and asked her "Isn't it you always said you want to get 'lo yan gum' from government?? If you want to get the full amount of 'lo yan gum', then you have to keep your account low and transfer the 'lo yan gum' somewhere else, right?'

2) His mom always turn the heat so high but his basement is very very small..... and every time we go back to his house; the heat is too high that I keep drinking water and hardly breathe or make me very sleepy. Then yesterday, Caveman can't stand her anymore and "kindly" point out to her that. She shouldn't turn up the heat too high. First, it will make people sleepy, secondly, it's bad for the body and for the skin...... THEN, her mom used her "winning skill" again. " Gum I am old ar mah, my body heat is not as high as you guys so I keep the heat so high lor" (seriously, it feels like summer in his basement and it's a very very small basement too)

3) They were at Cosco and her mom was testing the food sample. Right after she done eating it, she just throw away the paper on the shelves~!?!?!?! Then, Caveman was mad and tell her not to do it again. She didn't deny this time but give him "face" that she dun give a damn. BUT on the other hand, she keep laughing at people from China acting like countryside people or they are so loud and bad manner. AND she is doing EXACTLY the same..............


ai.................. and I can understand yui's situation and I already foreseen these in the future as her mom started to hang clothes in the bathroom...

Yui

big tooth, sorry I did not read every posting of yours but it seems like you are annoyed with daugthers in-law whining at public forum, correct?

May I know why does that bother you? Is it immoral or gossipy?

I'm not challenging you... but just abit confused. Thank you!

utopia

原帖由 Yui 於 2008-1-10 09:27 發表


My lai lai has a habbit of reserving and recycling tissue papers, she would unfold the crumble wet tissue and flat dry on the table (she said they are clean, just water).When my hubby and I see thes ...

Die la............ yui and alc, you guys are scaring me because .........your lai lai or grandma is like extreme version of caveman's mom..... and it seems to transforming into that kind of situation...

In his mom's room, I can find different kind of stuff. Bag of rice, 'fancy plastic bags'(which is not really, but to her, yes), magazine, can food etc.

In her new accord, I can find a BUNCH of wet tissue from restaurant; Apple, Candy, snack, blanket, puffy jacket, two unknown plastic tray (those one that for holding glass bottles), plastic bagssss, anything dun belong to a V6 Accord, you can find in her car............

Cooking way way too much for us (her fridge collection is enough for a family of 8.........), and she will not eat "old dishes" and force caveman and I eat the "old dishes". When we are so full and ask her to eat with us, she will make up different excuses like she already ate at 3pm or she will have dinner in workplace or she is not feeling well etc etc etc... to make us to get rid of the old dishes......... and we keep telling her not to cook so much........and she won't listen~~~ Always make soup LARGE enough for 6+ people.........and we both only able to drink a bowl or two max (talking about big bowl  you see in restaurant).................

And she has unlimited supply of wooden chopsticks and old ugly dishes that she won't throw away. She used to have a restaurant, and those supply was from the past. She won't throw those away....and not until recently, Caveman and I can't stand it anymore. We pull out EVERY SINGLE of her collection in her living room and forced her to face how much garbage she has....then she finally realize and told us to sell it in garage sell (which NOBODY buy ANYTHING from us at all...........) ..........and now those garbage is sitting at my house's storage and SHE PRETENDS those garbage are gone...............


Oh, and she has UNLIMITED broken luggage bags from China. Those looks nice ONLY and once you try to use it, either the wheel is broken or the zipper cannot be close after you stuff in your clothes.....And whenever we asked her why she has to buy these easily broken things all the way from China to Canada..... then she will reply with her favorite line "Not me, I didn't buy those. It's your aunt who buy those ji mah. I told her not to buy" (which we all know it's not true.........his aunt always mad at her for buying extreme cheap stuff from china and import them to Canada.....) She can buy like 10 pair of shoes (look exactly the same) just because 10 pair of shoes can get a better price in China..............


And she put an extreme ugly red luggage bag out for almost a year now and said she will throw it away and...................... I never see any action ........

utopia

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2008-1-9 20:12 發表
Yui,
your lai-lai is kinda like my 嬤嬤 in hk。她已前細個偷盜落香港。我嬤嬤最鍾意收集膠袋, 紙袋，橡根，報紙，雜誌，各酒樓既牙籤，繩，布碎   一個字：HAN (aka 不浪廢）嬤嬤從來都唔著新衫。。。 if you buy it, she will ...

OMG, your grandmother sounds like my dad hahahahaha

Alcoholic

Yui,
maybe big tooth is just too proud of his wife being 為人諗，心地好, put other people in first place...? i don't understand either... it's not like we don't understand or accept his point wor~

Twin,
haha...
welcome to the world of C9!!

big_tooth

原帖由 Alcoholic 於 2008-1-10 11:02 發表
Yui,
maybe big tooth is just too proud of his wife being 為人諗，心地好, put other people in first place...? i don't understand either... it's not like we don't understand or accept his point wor~

Twi ...

Actually, judging from your response to my post, I don't think you understand my point.  I think it's my ability to express it clearly.

Alcoholic

you said:
- don't always think that when there's a conflict it's the other party's fault. keep minds open
- try talking it out, make effort to solve it both sides
- don't talk behind one's back
- some people here not not accepting advice & some negative comments
- we don't understand/think for the lai-lai's side
- you like how your wife is not "comforting" herself, but rather "try to understand" the other person.
- if we "suen" & smile/act like nothing happened, then vent out on internet is not sincere
- illogical will become logical when one day you finally understand & feel for the comment that the other person made about you

i actually went through all your posts in this thread & took down the main points in short. unless you really can't express yourself accurately, i don't think i missed anything, nor the "big picture" that those points composes wor

Yui

Alc, I respect other's opinions and comments, but not necessarily agree to them.

One good example: "Open Communiation" with my Lai Lai will never work, it is a FACT proven by repeated FAILURE. Some people may think because my hubby and I are lacking proper communication skills and not able to deal with seniors, etc. I just laugh it out. Yeah right.

Happy to find out that you and I share the same philosophy re Lai Lai vs daughter in-law relationship. I behave exactly the same like you. Some of my Lai Lai's practices do annoy me very much, and I could get quite upset sometimes, but that does not mean we have a bad relationship.  

I like sharing my experiences, expressing some thoughts, and learning from individuals who are in similar situations, such as Alc, Littleprice, Hua Mei Zhi here at LYK. As simple as that. Thanks for sharing guys!

big_tooth

- don't always think that when there's a conflict it's the other party's fault. keep minds open
Very true

- try talking it out, make effort to solve it both sides
No, I actually think it's the son's (husband's) responsibility to solve the problems

- don't talk behind one's back
No.  The point is we often do the same things that we complain about others, it just might be in a different form.

- some people here not not accepting advice & some negative comments
More like dismissing others as inexperienced and not understanding

- we don't understand/think for the lai-lai's side
In some cases, yes.  Or we think we do but really don't.

- you like how your wife is not "comforting" herself, but rather "try to understand" the other person.
Try to understand is right.  My wife is just an example.

- if we "suen" & smile/act like nothing happened, then vent out on internet is not sincere
If I act like I'm happy, forcing myself to smile etc.  I definitely think so if that person I'm doing it to is supposed to be close to me.

- illogical will become logical when one day you finally understand & feel for the comment that the other person made about you
Not sure I understand it right.  My point is illogical to you might very well be logical in reality (and I must emphasize the MIGHT).