when my ex was trying to hold me back from breaking up, i was totally disoriented, and i was tempted to get back with him ...he didn't cheat on me (as far as i knew), but he was not treating me quite nicely, and we argued ALL the time...
then a friend of mine asked me ... "can you forget, or ignore, all the bad things that happened between you two, as if nothing has happened?"
"it's impossible, and i am getting tired of dealing with him " i said.
"then dont even bother getting back. even you two are togethe, you will get yourself into one of those crazy arguments again. " my friend said.
since then i have always remembered what my friend said about "as if nothing happened".
i know, if i were in deeper love with that person i would have been able to get over with the stinky memories and be patient enough to try to work things out with him. but too bad i wasnt completely blinded.
perhaps you should confront her whether she has cheated on you.
if she says something that means "yes", that's great that you are set free, although it is very unlikely.
then, think about it, will you trust her when she says to you she didnt even mean to cheat on you?
and suppose you do believe her and you two are back together, could you not suspect her honesty with you ever again?
hope you will work it out soon. |
發表於 2007-12-4 12:56
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I think either that is just an excuse for yourself or you just don't love or like the person as much