I'm not good at dating.... dating, not, good

et1984

Anyone can give me a hand if I somehow want to ask someone out for a movie or dinner?
I'm not a talkative person so I really don't know what to do.....I don't even know where's a good place to bring for food for the first time......

I am not talkative and I stay home mostly.........
what should I do and it's pretty hard to change my personality at this age too

嘉嘉

hmmmm
do you have some sense of humor?
for myself I don't like boring guys.....

what age are u btw?
like what's it says on ur login name?

et1984

I don't think I have sense of humor or maybe sometimes I do but then I blank out easily when I am nervous....>.<"
also sense of humor depend on people too....you know what I mean la
and it's a long story that I think I lost my romance since I'm a pisces I should have lots of romance movement but sigh.....
I'm like useless when it comes to girls .....

my login name haha....+-2 give or take ^_^

Guy

Okay...
I am not sure if you actually feel comfortable to ask in the first place.
But you need self-esteem and confidence at minimum.

If you are good with that, here is the things you need to look at yourself for you date.

>When you going for dinner, you will need to make conversations. Without an exciting topic, your date can be over as soon as you leave the restaurant.
>When you going for a movie, you will not need to talk much. HOWEVER, movie will often lead to a drink or a meal afterward. But since you went to see a movie, you both have a common topic to make conversation with (So, pay attention to the movie).

as for a place for food....ask your partner ahead (assume you are the guy) and see what she doesn't like. then you can go to sites like chowtimes.com or urbanspoon **look at their reviews** to sort out the places. (note: make up your mind of where to go and bring her when she can't decide)

Bring a checklist of restaurant with you if you have to
she will appreciate you make the effort to the date.


Do not bother to change you personality...it doesn't help.. in this short period of time

somewhereintime

I'm old by now, but I started dating when I was 14 so I thinkI know a thing or two about dating.
Do some homework on the restaurants and the movie
to ensure that the lady would not feel offensive.
You may even want to visit the restaurant ahead and
familiar with the menu and price, yeah, you might get to
know the Maitre D or hostess, vice versa so you may pretend
to be a  frequent  guest. For the movie, you may rent a DVD
and view the movie first. Sometime it would be distracting if
an attractive date sitting besides you.
Then there would be quite a bit to talk about the movie at the
dinner/drink and afterward.
And for drink, know your limit and do not embarrass yourself,
knowledge about the beverage will add your score too.
Just be prepared, relax and have a good time.

vilium

I am same kind of person as "et1984". The most difficult part is to find the girl who I like and she like me back too. I think being not talkative is a killer, and I am this kind of person too.

嘉嘉

I think very important is know how to tum女仔 lor
do things that make girls happy

DragonFire

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Jan

Maybe it'd be easier to start a conversation if you pick topics/interests that you both have in common? That should help break the ice a bit on the first date.

I also feel that being yourself is best. Try to be confident but not pretentious and stay within your own comfort zone.

KittyLeung74

Self esteem + self confidence + to be who to be = true you
Well-equipped to find your true love!  Go, et1984, Go!